I have a deep, deep love for the divine feminine. Women are among the most powerful and influential beings on this planet, all while having the shapeshifting capabilities to be soft, beautiful, and expertly cunning. So, I need you to stay with me when I say that recently, I have been feeling called to learn more and speak out on the divine masculine, and men in general.
Let me start by sharing something we all know. Women have worked tirelessly uphill to have a seat at the table. And even at that table, they are still often treated like a child who should mind their manners and speak when spoken to. It hasn’t been easy, but we have come so far from the quiet corners we were once shadows in.
In the process of that climb, something shifted in the duality of the masculine and feminine. Our relationship with men seemed to become more enraged, more sacrificial, and more disposable.
Before I light a metaphorical match, let me back up. I am a mother to both a son and a daughter. Every day, for the last 16 years, I have tried to consciously parent both of my children to be good human beings. The kind of people who look out for others, regardless of their gender, class, etc., etc. I have worked to teach them respect, both for themselves and others. And I have done it all alongside a very kind-hearted and good husband.
What I am trying to say is that I know and love good men, and I am working hard to raise a good man. I promise you that not all of them are terrible creatures of horror out to hurt women. But also, I have known men who do not love, protect, and care for women. Men who have hurt me personally, and the women I love, in many, many different ways.
In saying that, we, as women, have worked so hard to become equal to men, to become the same as men, that I am unsure if we ever asked ourselves if we were ever meant to be that way. Hold on. Equal in respect, yes. Equal in power, yes. But the same, no. We are not the same. And I think most women say a silent prayer for that.
We are powerful in such a beautifully different way— our inner workings like a song being effortlessly played from memory. But lately, what I am noticing is that it seems we are trying to shut men out completely, giving them no space at all.
Some of you may be agreeing, as if that’s the point.
But should it be? Are there not good men? Are we not raising sons in the hope that they will become good men? That they will be the next generation to right the wrongs of the past? And yet, the narrative of “I hate men” seems to be growing with each day.
How can we lift our daughters up and tell our sons to sit down? Maybe we did it to our girls decades ago, but do we need to get revenge and now do it to boys? If these are the steps we begin to take, are we not any better than the men who did it to women for hundreds of years?
In this current climate of everything, I’ll be honest, I am slightly afraid to share this viewpoint.
I am not a tradwife, and I am not Christian. I am just an intuitively led spiritual being who is asking that we look at our impact on things moving forward.
As I begin to shift my business, I plan to make space for men just as much as I do for women. My hope is that the good ones show up and I, in my divine feminine power, can help them. Because we are not the same, and we both still have so much to learn from one another. So while I know my clientele is mainly women (who I adore), I would love to begin making men feel included as well.
I am in the process of creating a one-on-one program called “The Magician. A Guided One-on-One Mentoring For Men- Making Space For the Masculine.” In the past, I have focused on guiding women, and I still plan to. But there is a calling I must answer to invite the men who are looking to grow, who are looking for guidance, who are looking to be a part of something, and to help create the better future we, as women, hope for - together.
I think that as an older female, it's about answering a call to step in and guide, rather than exclude. It is so easy to focus only on the negative and use that as fuel to keep our fire and hatred burning. But I ask you to take a pause. I ask you to remember the good men you know in your life. I am not pushing for all women to please men and do as they say. I am asking you to remember your power and how you can shape and help, instead of leading with rage.